Part of the genius of The Sopranos is masterful scenes like this. Dr. Krakower is unflinching and unambiguous as to what Carmella needs to do. And we, the audience, are in on the fact that Dr. Krakower is absolutely right.
In a future episode, Carmella gets the answer that she wants to hear, sadly, in my opinion, from her priest. (When this episode aired originally it inspired lively discussions among Catholics about the orthodoxy of the advice, but that’s another topic.) She gets the loophole she needs to stay put and not feel accountable for her decision.
I think we’ve all been there. Personally or professionally someone asks us for our advice, and when we give the answer – the follow-up questions we get, indicate that what we’re saying, just isn’t what they want to hear.
Consultant or friend it’s hard to tell someone something they don’t want to hear. As a consultant, my experience has been, 8 times out of 10 the prospect will move on to someone else.
And it got me thinking about those who have told me things I didn’t want to hear, and how thankful I am that they did. It didn’t feel good at the time. But I’m glad that they cared enough to deliver the tough love or the awkward truth.
It’s easier to give people what they want.